“The Calvary ain’t coming to save you.”
WARNING: If you can relate to my message below, this may sting a bit— But if you are tired of feeling miserable, this may be exactly what you need to hear.
Are you sick yet of the lies and excuses that rob us from our everyday life and dreams?
Now stick with me to the end, because I fully believe in what I’m about to share with you because I was once at this place in my life…Mentally, Physically, and Financially.
I just knew there was more I was capable of having and achieving, in all areas of my life. Fast forward to where I was at in life, to where I am today, I’ve finally learned how to take control of my life, and I fully BELIEVE and know that you can too. Just follow me and I’ll explain.
For those though who don’t know who I am or know my story, my name is Brent.
Im happily married, I have two wild young boys, and I am an “Entrepreneur” which sounds weird to me when I say that, but it’s true. I left a career that most would consider a “Dream job”.
It came down to me not being happy, plain and simple.
So I left, and created my own success and happiness. And let me tell you, there is nothing more fulfilling than making your own path and creating your own success.
But, before I got to where I’m at today, I was a Firefighter/Paramedic for 8 years.
To me, It ultimately became a job that paid GREAT that allowed me to support my family, But it was not serving me in a positive way.
The worst part of all, I felt trapped because I had a family to support and provide for. It was a shitty place to be in, and it felt there was no end in sight for me... Until I said enough is enough.
I still didn’t know what I would do or even could do.
I felt without a real education like a college degree, I wasn’t going to be able to change my career and still provide for my family.
You see, my whole life after high school revolved around my desire to become a Fireman and get my “dream job” at whatever cost.
Overall, it took me about 18 months of training and school, and another 5 years to get hired full time because of how competitive it was at the time.
5 years of being turned down and told no from department after department was hard to endure. But through perseverance and being consistent, it all paid off…kinda.
Once I accepted a full-time Fireman position, I felt as if I had it “ALL” in regards to a career. Great pay, Benefits, and Retirement. On top of that, without working overtime, I really only had to work about 10 days a month.
Seems pretty good right!?
I thought it was when I first started. Until very quickly It started breaking me down…Not just physically, but Mentally.
It started to affect me and my happiness.
The reality of the job became clear very quickly. The negative side effects of the fire service that no one seems to talk about when actually pursuing the job. All everyone talked about was the pay, benefits, pension, and “time-off”.
Yet, they leave out the side of the job. The sleep deprivation, experiencing the death of children, or the time away from my wife and kids. That seemed to bother me the most.
I can’t tell you how many Birthdays, Anniversaries, Thanksgivings, and Christmas’ I missed with my family and two young boys.
After years of dealing with this reality of the Fire Service, and losing compassion for people that would abuse the 911 system daily, I asked myself this one question.
Is it all worth it?
Was it worth the 6 figure Salary? Was it worth the benefits and pension? Was it worth my mental and physical health?
I knew deep down it was NO.
But then the lies and excuses would filter back inside my head. They would flood my thoughts constantly.
Which is what led me to start asking myself questions I was desperately seeking the answers too.
Like what else could I do for a job? Or money? Can I even pull off an entirely new career change? What If I fail? What will my family or my friends think, or even my co-workers?
For a long time the lies inside my head convinced me I had no other options but to work another 25 years in this career.
So I believed it… for another 2 years. I just tried to accept it as it was. Until I discovered the truth about what i'm about to reveal to you.
You know the cheesy saying — “The Truth Will Set You Free”. As much as I hate that saying — it couldn’t be more accurate of a statement.
BUT…
Before I continue, I need you to understand this point i'm about to make.
And as a disclaimer, my intent is not to bash the Fire Service.
In Fact, I met and worked with some incredible people during my career in the Fire Service.
In fact, two of my best friends today are still Firemen.
The point i’m trying to get across is to help you if this is something you may be feeling in your current situation, career, relationship, or whatever. It could be anything in your life that you are unhappy with.
WHATEVER it may be, If you are miserable or unhappy, CHANGE IT.
STOP putting it off and allowing “FEAR” to control you. Take the control back!
It doesn’t have to rule over your life and rob you of your happiness.
Stop saying “I wish I could do this, I wish I could have that, I wish I could do that, I wish I could have this”. If that really is the case stop talking about it and change it.
Just f*cking do it!
TRUST ME — I get it, you have bills, or a family to support, or you think you don’t have the “Time” to start over. I was once living those lies until I realized this one thing.
If you want serious change in your life, You have to DECIDE to take a different path first, and then PLAN it out and OWN it…And then be fu*king ruthless in obtaining whatever it is you want.
I remember when I decided to make this exact move in my life, I was scared sh*tless. I’m not going to sugar coat it and tell you it was a cake walk.
I remember the lies and fear would try to filter back in… Like what If this happens, what if that, what if, what if, what if…
How about this. WHAT IF you just decided to do the thing you want to do or change, and DO it!
Stop the lies that will try and creep back in your thoughts. Interrupt them immediately and focus on the truth.
The truth that — You ARE capable. You ARE smart. You ARE committed to your plan.
Stick to your plan, be patient, and stay focused.
Get rid of your distractions and ignore the naysayers. They don’t want to see you do what your about to go after and succeed because then it makes them uncomfortable and ultimately hurts their self-esteem.
Once I left my career and focused on my next move which is doing what I do now, I instantly experienced a HUGE transformation in my own life.
I am finally HAPPY again. I’m more energetic, and excited to chase my next goal and chapter in life.
A lot of friends and family are curious what my next chapter is going to involve, And I can tell you it has to do with The Digital Marketing Industry.
I started learning a year back on the massive opportunity their is to sell online and how easy it really is ONCE I found someone to mentor me.
So before you put your phone down or whatever device your reading this from right now… I need you to understand something.
If your not happy in all areas of your life.
If you find yourself complaining or thinking to yourself “this sucks”, in any situation.
DO something about it. You can get whatever it is you want out of life, but only if you decide to change it.
Sitting around and “wishing” things could be different is such a waste of time, when you could be actually working on your plan to create the change you desire.
I hope this helped you and if it resonated, please share this with someone who you know who may benefit to hear this.
I want to be able to shed some light on what is possible and encourage as many people that I can to leave their unhappiness behind, and go after what they truly desire in life.
The End.
-Brent
